The biggest reason dating is so screwed up is because of all the does and don’ts that are ingrained in the minds of so many men and women. One of the most prominent is… how soon should a man call a woman after initially meeting her? Now the reason for this rule is to allow women to weed out men who are considered to be needy or a little bit too eager. I have heard a man should wait anywhere from 3 to 5 days after meeting a woman before calling her. Now it is funny how many women actually subscribe to this kind of thinking. On the other hand, a lot of women love to complain that men don’t call at all. So what happens is you have a screwed up situation where if you call too early you are bad and if you call too late you are bad. I am going to settle this right now. So how long should you wait to call a woman?
You should call a woman when you have something to say. It doesn’t matter if it is 3 hours or 3 weeks later. Lets face it, some men don’t know how to carry on a conversation with women period. It doesn’t matter when he calls, he can still come across as needy and a wussy. Can you call a woman hours after meeting her? Yes. For example, lets say you meet a woman tonight. You feel she has potential. You talk for a few minutes. During the conversation, you find out she likes jazz. You exchange numbers and go your separate ways. Later that night, you find out that there is a jazz event going on the next day that you weren’t aware of. You decide to go. Guess who you should call to join you? That’s right. The woman you met earlier in the evening. Here is how the conversation should go. “Hi, this is Neil. I met you a few hours ago. Earlier you told me how much you loved jazz. Hey, I know this is short notice and I wasn’t sure if you were aware of this, but I just found out that there is a jazz event tomorrow at 7pm at The Hotel. I have already rearranged my schedule to attend. Since you love jazz just as much as I do, you should join me tomorrow evening for some drinks, stimulating conversation with some great jazz music in the background. Will you be able to rearrange your schedule to attend?” It doesn’t matter if she goes or not.
So please tell me. Does this sound like a needy man?